Thursday, June 7, 2012

Homemade Goo

If your child is bored, here is a great boredom buster....Goo!  You probably have all if the ingredients in your pantry and this is something you and your toddler can make  - and  - play with together.

  • 1 cup flour
  • 1/4 cup salt
  • 2 tablespoons cream of tarter
  • 1 tablespoon cooking oil
  • 1 cup water
  • food coloring (optional)

Mix all the ingredients together and keep it in an airtight container or resealable plastic bag.  Dispose of it after a few days.

Find this and more ideas in Playskool's Toddler Busy Play Book.

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Does Your Child Help With Chores?

My husband and I were JUST talking about this last week.  As kids, we both had to complete chores.  I had to do fun things like vacuum, dust and clean the bathrooms (YUCK!).  I had to complete chores every Saturday morning before I was allowed to go out and play for the day.  I had set chores and whether it took me a half an hour or 4 hours to complete them, I couldn't go out until they were done.  But, things are different today than when I grew up, and I know some kids today just don't complete chores, for whatever reason.
I know chores are not fun and sometimes it seems impossible to get it all done, but we all have to do them.  I think of it as an injustice if we do not teach our children to complete some chores around the house.  An injustice????  Yes, and here is why.  Most experts agree that chores are good for children.  In addition to our needs for physical and emotional safety, love and affection, and healthy amounts of control, we also all need to be needed. That's because we're pack animals by nature.  Children need to feel as though they're part of something.  They can't feel that way if they don't have chores and make contributions to the family.  In her book, Raising Compassionate, Courageous Children in a Violent World, Janice Cohn, PhD, cites studies showing that helping others not only promotes higher self-esteem, but increases academic and social skills while decreasing the risk for depression and anxiety disorders.

If you are still not convinced that chores really are good for kids, here are a few more reasons:
  • Chores are one of the best ways to build a feeling of competence.
  • Chores help children understand what needs to be done to run a household.
  • Chores establish helpful habits and good attitudes about work.
  • Chores teach real-world skills and valuable lessons about life, easing the transition into adulthood

We have Mason do some small chores around the house already.  He already puts his toys away, helps to clear the dishes from the dinner table, amongst other things.  But what chores should we have Mason complete on a daily basis?  What is appropriate for his age?   Is he too young for some chores?  Should we pay him an allowance?  I've been doing research on what the "experts" suggest, and here is what I found.

Many parents underestimate what their kids are able to do.  Think about this...your child can turn on your IPad, choose an app, buy a game, then play that game, but they can't set the table or start the dishwasher?  Huh?  Something is wrong with this picture.

Generally, young children around preschool age can handle one or two simple one-step or two-step jobs. Older children can manage more.  Realize the kids can begin to help with household chores at an early age.  Things as simple as putting clothes in or out of the dryer is a chore.  Helping to take their plate to the sink or dishwasher after meals is a chore.
Don't think children will do this without reminder or making messes either. Try to gently remind your children to do chores, but do have a backup plan if your child fails to follow through.  Using the "when/then" technique, such as, "When the pets are fed, then you may have your dinner" will probably work much better than nagging.  As with everything when it comes to children, consistency is key.  Be consistent in expected tasks and follow through with these expectations or your child will learn to start putting off the chore.

One of the biggest mistakes is thinking children should know how to complete a task.  Remember, this is how children learn - "the learning is in the doing" and by giving chores, you help to promote this.  And, don't expect perfection.  If you do, it will only make things harder on you and your child.  If you are a perfectionist, give your child a chore that you won't mind if it is not completed perfectly.  If you redo your child's chore, you are sending the signal that what your child just did was not good enough...and no one likes to feel that way.  Try demonstrating step by step how the chore should be completed.  Next, let your child help. And then have your child do the chore as you supervise. Once your child has it mastered, he's ready to go solo.

When you do give instructions for your child to complete a chore, be specific.  Saying something a simple as 'Clean your room' is vague and can be interpreted many different ways.  Instead, be specific in the exact tasks you want completed.  For example, say, "Put your clothes in the closet, books on the shelf, dishes in the kitchen, and toys in the toy box.'"

 Remember to praise your child!  And don't wait until the chore is complete.  Just like a race that you would cheer your child the whole time, use positive reinforcement as your child is completing the task.  This is especially important in younger children.

So, the real question is, what are actual chores that are age appropriate for my child?  How can you know what to expect of your child and at what age?  Start by simply having your child get the silverware to the table. The point is to begin with a chore that is accomplishable and where your child can get an immediate payoff, such as praise.  Below is a list of age appropriate chores for children.

Chores for children ages 2 to 3
  • Put toys away.
  • Fill pet's food dish.
  • Put clothes in hamper.
  • Wipe up spills.
  • Dust.
  • Pile books and magazines
Chores for children ages 4 to 5
  • Any of the above chores, plus:
  • Make own bed.
  • Empty wastebaskets.
  • Bring in mail or newspaper.
  • Clear table.
  • Pull weeds.
  • Use hand-held vacuum to pick up crumbs.
  • Water flowers.
  • Unload utensils from dishwasher.
  • Wash plastic dishes at sink.
  • Fix bowl of cereal

Chores for children ages 6 to 7
  • Any of the above chores, plus:
  • Sort laundry.
  • Sweep floors.
  • Set and clear table.
  • Help make and pack lunch.
  • Weed and rake leaves.
  • Keep bedroom tidy.
  • Pour own drinks.
  • Answer telephone.

Chores for children ages 8 to 9
  • Any of the above chores, plus:
  • Load dishwasher.
  • Put away groceries.
  • Vacuum.
  • Help make dinner.
  • Make own snacks.
  • Wash table after meals.
  • Put away own laundry.
  • Sew buttons.
  • Make own breakfast.
  • Peel vegetables.
  • Cook simple foods, such as toast.
  • Mop floor.
  • Take pet for a walk.

Chores for children ages 10 and older.
  • Any of the above chores, plus:
  • Unload dishwasher.
  • Fold laundry.
  • Clean bathroom.
  • Wash windows.
  • Wash car.
  • Cook simple meal with supervision.
  • Iron clothes.
  • Do laundry.
  • Baby-sit younger siblings (with adult in the home).
  • Mow lawn.
  • Clean kitchen.
  • Change bed.
  • Make cookies or cake from a mix. 

So now that we have an idea of the importance of chores and what age appropriate chores are, do you give an allowance for chores?  Should your child get an allowance? Most parenting experts say "usually not." That's because the main purpose of an allowance is to teach kids how to handle money.

It's especially important to not tie allowance to chores for younger kids. That's because a younger child may be less motivated by money and simply choose to not do them. Once an older child has established a sense of responsibility, however, money can become a nice motivator for certain chores.  I agree with this statement.  Sometimes it is all about the motivation.

Bottom line, kids need to complete chores like they need structure and sleep.  Do what works for your family.  Start with one chore and go from there.  You might be surprised how readily your child accepts completing chores.
Chasing Tiny Feet

Sunday, June 3, 2012

Summer Safety

I have recently been looking into swim lessons for Mason.  Although he is only 3 and we only have a kiddie pool, I know there are still some real dangers.  Younger children are especially vulnerable — they can drown in less than 2 inches (6 centimeters) of water.  Nearly 1,000 kids die each year by drowning.  And most drownings occur in home swimming pools.  It is the second leading cause of accidental death for people between the ages of 5 and 24.  That means that drowning kills more American children 1 to 4 years old than any cause except birth defects, according to a new federal report.

Drowning can also happen where you'd least expect it — the sink, the toilet bowl, fountains, buckets, inflatable pools, or small bodies of standing water around your home, such as ditches filled with rainwater. That's a really scary thought if you ask me.  And, many who survived near drownings suffered irreversible brain damage.

There are many precautions that parents can take to keep children safe this summer while still having fun with water.  According to experts, the first thing that should be done is blocking access to swimming pools, increasing vigilance and starting swimming lessons.

There's good research that swimming lessons for kids 1 to 4 can be lifesavers. Swim lessons at an early age can help to teach children the skills they need to manage themselves in the rare event that they end up in the water and survive long enough so parents can find them and get them out.

In many cases involving home pools, parents are unaware that their child has sneaked out of the house.  That's why you have to have barriers, something that will slow down your child's access to the water.

According to the Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), fences should meet these standards:
  • Fences should stand at least 4 feet (130 centimeters) high with no foot or handrails for kids to climb on.
  • The slats should be less than 4 inches (110 millimeters) apart so a child can't get through, or if chain link, should have no opening larger than 1¾ inches (50 millimeters).
  • Gates should be self-closing and self-latching, and the latch should be out of kids' reach.

Here are some tips from the American Academy of Pediatrics:
  • All caregivers should learn CPR.
  • Never leave a toy in or around a pool.
  • Never leave a child alone in or near a pool.
  • Make sure an adult is always within arm's length.
  • Children ages 1 to 4 years old should take swimming lessons. But remember that teaching children to swim does not guarantee their safety in the water.
  • Teach children to never run, push or jump on others around water. Teach them never to swim alone.
  • Keep a phone by the pool, along with rescue equipment, such as a life preserver and a shepherd's hook -- a long pole with a hook at the end.
  • Pools should be surrounded by a fence at least 4-feet high. Pool gates should self-close and self-latch at a height unreachable by small children.
  • If you have an inflatable or plastic pool, empty it after each use and turn it upside down.

It's important to teach your kids proper pool behavior, and to make sure that you take the right precautions, too. Let kids know that they should contact the lifeguard or an adult if there's an emergency.

Kids shouldn't run or push around the pool and should never dive in areas that are not marked for diving. If the weather turns bad (especially if there's lightning), they should get out of the pool immediately.

Above all, supervise your kids at all times. Don't assume that just because your child took swimming lessons or is using a flotation device such as an inner tube or inflatable raft that there's no drowning risk.

Chasing Tiny Feet